Author: Honey-York-8182

Edit 2: an update/details about my then-BF https://www.reddit.com/r/GirlDinnerDiaries/s/zdpcTvd17f

Basically:

1. He liked me but would not tell me directly, I knew about it from his best friend
2. He thought I liked him first (wtf? I’ve NEVER even shown any kind of romantic interest or flirted with him), pls don’t ask how I knew. But I only knew this days after this event happened ‼️
3. He got frustrated because he kept trying to bait/lure me into confessing to him first, but I DONT EVEN LIKE HIM ROMANTICALLY!!!! So I didn’t say whatever he was hoping for me to say.
4. I asked him to just be direct and tell me what he wanted to say. He went quiet and just showed anger on his face. Then I chose to become the direct one, I told him “I’m not sure what you want me to say because you are being too vague. But do you want me to say that I like you romantically?”. Still silence from him.
5. He suddenly downed a whole bottle of soju, told me that I’m worth more than my boyfriend (yes I was in a new relationship at that time, probably why he got frustrated). SMASHED my items (laptop, ipad, everything on my desk, etc.), and snapped my chair into
6. Still wouldn’t tell me his point directly 🤷🏻‍♀️ male pride I guess. Just kept going with his bs about how I can find someone better than my then-boyfriend.
7. Long story short I cried, told him I don’t understand what point he was trying to make, my boyfriend came, my male friend went home.
8. He tried to hug me TWICE before he left. I avoided both attempts (yeah he still tried to do it after I avoided the first….)

Edit:

1. He paid for all the damages!
2. Yes I cut him off
3. My then-bf was outside but he didnt hear anything. We were having a house party at that time.

A small update/additional detail on my then-BF situation after this event: “My male friend smashed my items after I rejected-ish him”https://www.reddit.com/r/GirlDinnerDiaries/s/zm78MspAp1

So there was a short period of time when the three of us were together in my room. That’s when I started crying and begging my male friend to stop talking nonsense (because I used to value him as a dear, PLATONIC friend).

My then-BF secretly recorded our conversation. I think he was also trying to calm my friend down but they were speaking in their language so I didn’t understand any single thing (they’re both Indians, I’m not).

Few days passed after that night, me and my then-BF went to visit his other friends’ place. He said he’s gonna make fun of that friend by playing that recording on their TV. I felt conflicted but said “sure, as long as it doesn’t have the part of me crying”.

He proceeded to airplay it on their TV.

And there was a full fucking minute of me crying and sobbing and begging for my friend to stop acting weird.

The room felt awkward, his friends went kinda silent but I pretended that I was okay with the recording being played until the end (+-15 min), holding back my embarrassment and anger.

When we headed out, I asked him “why did you play it? I was clearly crying there.”

THIS GUY SAID: “no you were not? Were you crying???”

And I kid you not, you could hear it in the recording + my friend in the recording even said something like, “don’t cry”, and one of my BF’s friends also asked why I was crying and kinda comforted me.

He did apologize after that, but we broke up months later when I found out he cheated when he went back to India for summer break. I remember he also made fun of my panic attacks and anxiety 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Anyway, none of the people in this story still stays in my life. Cut them all off.