\*reposted because my post was removed because the picture of my food sucked\*
Food: my second caffinated beverage of the day and leftover cottage cheese alfredo penne w/spinach. This is also my breakfast because i’m stressed af.
I (27F) found out earlier this year i have multiple fibroids. After 3 months of literally bleeding out, we finally got them under control with a medication that shrinks them by putting me in chemical menopause. I just went back to the doctor for my recent ultrasound review and he said at this point he wouldnt be able to do surgery without causing significant damage. He recommends that if I want a baby that I need to try sooner rather than later, he’d recommend now. Mostly because they will grow back and i’ll need a more invasive proceedure and possibly a hysterectomy in the future, especially if i start bleeding like that again.
The problem is i have to make a lot of life-altering choices really fast. My husband and i have decided we really do want a kid, that isnt an issue.
First issue: We never had a wedding (we had a courthouse wedding when I got re-stationed while i was in the military) and we were planning on finally having one November 2027. We havent paid for anything yet thankfully, but we have to decide if thats something we still are going to do. I dont want to have a wedding while i’m pregnant. We could push it off, but i doubt we’ll want to have a wedding with a newborn, and by the time the kid is older, we’ll probably be past the point of it being worth it. We can move it up, but thats a lot to do really fast. None of the 3 are good choices and we need to decide like now. If we choose to go through with the wedding and wait, we risk losing our chances to have a baby entirely. But, its only 15 months away so it could be fine and we cancelled for no reason.
Second issue: I start my master’s studies literally next month. The original plan was to get pregnant around graduation. Now, if i were to get pregnant, i’d likely have to take a year break. The classes are on a strict curriculum, so if i miss too much i’ll have to take the whole year off. Obviously i can pick up where i left off, but thats still a year gap. Idk if its better to push through and hope for the best, or put off my school and focus on a baby.
Idk what to do. My husband is incredibly supportive of whatever i decide, which is very sweet but not helpful in actually making a decision on my own. I’m scared i might ruin everything just to not have a successful pregnancy anyways. I’m also scared about choosing to have the baby and regretting missing out on the other things. Obviously i’d get over it, but it would still suck.
My original plan was so simple! It was \\\[Leave military > go to school & wedding > baby > go back to work\\\]. I wish my body didnt fuck it up.