Greek yogurt with blueberries, roasted apples, 80% dark chocolate and strawberries.
I’m honestly embarrassed to be writing this, as i feel when you bring your relationship drama to reddit it just shows it’s never been more over.
Anyways, my bf is an absolute bum and i’m realising we’re incompatible. Firstly, he is a massive stoner (enough said), i was also a massive stoner, but the difference between me and him is that i didn’t spend all my money down to the last penny on it and i didn’t let it get in the way of my responsibilities and dictate my mood if i didn’t get it. If he can’t smoke, he’ll be grumpy and snappy, and when he goes broke, which is every couple of days, he tries to blame it on me and takes it out on me for having no money. Meanwhile i can make my meagre £800 a month last the entire time, as i don’t spend £100+ a week on weed. This man gets £700 a month from his parents on top of them paying all of his bills (plus his student loan), and he literally spends it within a week.
He will literally constantly borrow money for me for weed and tobacco and it gives me the ick every single time. I only do it because he gives me it back. Additionally, he’s literally got a 15k word dissertation due this august, and he’s not written a single word of it because he’d rather do drugs and smoke weed.
Meanwhile, i’m not perfect, like i said i was a daily smoker/stoner, now i only smoke occasionally when im with him. but the difference is im trying to get my life together, i go gym 5/6x a week, i cycle and do 8k+ steps a day, i eat healthy food and sleep well. It’s a drag to get him to want to do any of these things with me.
Of course he doesn’t even have a job either, and relies on a student loan and his rich parents to pay for all of his bills, rent, food, drugs, alcohol and weed. It’s just getting really embarrassing. When we first started going out with each other 8 months ago, it was fun, we partied a lot, generally just acted like degenerates but for me it was a phase, i’ve realised for him this is his lifestyle and we aren’t compatible.
And he is addicted to porn, he watches it everyday which i don’t even see it as cheating or anything, i just think it’s so pathetic and icky when im an absolute smoke show and he could have sex with me anytime, but chooses to jerk off to strangers on a screen.
I do definitely think he’s neurodivergent btw, i am also autistic and ADHD, but i still don’t think it’s an excuse to act like this. I struggle greatly with my neurodivergence and i still show up every day and do my absolute best to build a fulfilling and healthy life for myself, while he doesn’t even try.
Btw, he’s 27. cherry on top 🍒 I am going to break up with him today.