this week i went on a third (and last) date with a guy who i'd liked up to that point! we met out at a local bar, and went on our first date after running into each other a couple times. i was so excited by the idea of meeting a partner naturally out in my community…
the plan was to have a drink at his apartment while we watch the world cup and then head out to a local food festival for the rest of the evening. as someone who isnt so into sports i was excited for him to explain the game and the background of the cup up to that point to me. my roommate did the same with me during the NBA finals, it makes me feel connected! but when I got there he pours my drink, puts his arm around me, and stared at the screen with his mouth hanging slightly open for no joke like?? 50 minutes??? ick number 1.
the time at the festival was uneventful, we had a cute day out. my style is pretty eccentric, i have an unusual hairstyle and was wearing a bright pink dress. a lot of women stopped to compliment me. it came to the point he seemed a little put out by me stopping to return a woman's compliment. saying things like "oh wow youre a real hit!" sometimes people would acknowledge both of us by saying WE look cute and he'd playfully sneer "thats not about us, thats about you!" ick number 2.
after the festival ended we went back to his place, turned the tv back on, and sat together. he'd start kissing me, and i'd kiss back because i did LIKE him but he kept trying to escalate passed kissing. at the first sign of it i'd pull away. at one point he tried to grab my boob and i said out loud "i didnt come over to do that." and he responded "oh okay i dont want you to feel uncomfortable." i thought "cool, he understands now that i've been clear." … sure enough he grabbed my head, kissed me, and then tried to climb on top of me.
i rolled him over onto his back, got up, and walked to the door to grab my shoes and my bag. told him i was ready to go home. he offered to walk me to the door of his complex, i said no thank you and walked to my friends house about a mile away.
its just so disappointing i sent EVERY physical and verbal signal that i just wanted to sit and be together and his natural response was to try and wear me down. i dont end up in situations like this a lot but every time i have its hard not to be like "what vibe was i giving off to cause this? why does he think this way of me?" it hurts my feelings.
anyways.
Vietnamese noodle bowl with grilled chicken, an egg roll, veggies, and fish sauce.