A couple years back when I was at university, there was a guy, John, that I was friends with benefits with. Our relationship was great, but eventually we began growing apart, and we both started dating serious partners. We made the mutual decision to delete each other’s #s, and unfollow each other on social media. We just got on too well, I knew that at least for myself, I couldn’t be a good partner to my new boyfriend if I knew John was still an option in my phone.
Flash forward to now, that boyfriend and I have been broken up a couple of months now. I was thinking about my old FWB, and I decided to try and find him online to reconnect. It’s embarrassing to admit, but I completely forgot the dude’s last name, could only remember his first name John. After spending about an hour hopelessly trying to find MY John in a sea of Johns on Instagram, I finally gave up and accepted that John either didn’t WANT to be found, or it simply wasn’t meant to be.
The very next day, John found me on Instagram. Now we’re talking again. But isn’t that super strange and coincidental, that we were both thinking of each other and looking for each other’s profiles within the same time period? Does Instagram have an algorithm or something that would cause this to happen? Or was it just purely by chance?