Look I am not the kind of person to just jump into conclusions just because internet told me to. But I think he does show some symptoms that are typical for adults, since there supposedly is a difference between ADHD in children and adults. And I think that his behaviour has to be the way it is because of ADHD.
He games a lot, like a lot. Sure something a lot of guys do but it has come to the point that he does it even when I am at his place. I think it’s his hyperfixation, he is a cs major and loves programming. He does it in his free time, making various projects, but the problem appears that he gets so sucked into it he forgets how long he has been doing it, forgets to eat and basically forgets that anything around him exists including his own needs and me. Another thing is he fidgets a lot when at his desk. His work space is messy. He is very bad with dates such as birthdays and our anniversary and little things such as making appointments, and small details that he seems unimportant to remember, when I can remember them clearly. He said multiple times that he cannot properly communicate his feelings because he doesn’t know how to, or doesn’t even know what he feels. He is very impulsive, especially when mad, when we argue he will say some hurtful things, but deeply regret them after and would not even know why he said them in the first place. I feel like he doesn’t know how to regulate his emotions, and after an argument he can stay mad for quite some time. He admitted to being an overthinker, especially when it comes to the aftermath of an argument. He says that he wants me to be with him everyday since us cuddling makes him very relaxed, which I read somewhere that some ADHD people like cuddling very very much since it realises dopamine and other hormones. He is also a nicotine user, and says that if he were to stop he would get extremely grumpy and stressed, which can totally just be a symptom of withdrawl for anyone. There is plenty more stuff I have observed but the rant would be too long.
I need some advice, especially from ADHD folks, if you have experienced something similar before getting a diagnosis.
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