So my mom died young; she was 62 and diedfrom early onset Alzheimer’s. My dad was also 62 when she died and didn’t want to spend the rest of his life alone.
He met a woman who was a few years younger than he was, but nothing drastic. What we didn’t realize right away was that she is completely helpless. She uses weaponized incompetence all the time to get others to do everything for her. Including my dad. And my dad was a gem and would help her with anything she asked him to. Her previous husband also had to do everything for her. And she was mad that he divorced her because she was so useless at life.
Well. My dad got really sick last year. He had a rare aggressive cancer in his bile duct that spread to his liver quickly and he was gone in 4 months. And now, my stepmom is angry that he had “the nerve” to die and leave her to fend for herself. He didn’t have any money because my mom’s end of life care wiped their savings out entirely. So now she has to go back to work and that pisses her off. She’s incredibly self centered and her kids barely talk to her.
It doesn’t help that she has 12 kids that she pretty much hates and expects them to “take care of her”. The whole situation just makes me so mad. I miss my dad like CRAZY. I wish he would have beat the cancer but he didn’t and now we have to get along without him. I’m sorry he can’t do everything for you anymore, but that’s just how it is. I found out she’s moving very far away from us and won’t talk to me or my siblings because it’s “triggering”. I feel like she never liked our family. She merely put up with us because of my dad. Good riddance.
Chicken Caesar salad and a High Noon seltzer. I need something else for my wrenched guts.