Dinner: Chicken tikka masala with basmati rice and slightly burnt naan.
I live in a desert climate, and I keep the AC around 75-76ºF while summer highs right now are over 100ºF outside. This morning, my husband decided we needed fresh air, and opened all the windows. He turned the AC off, made us coffee and I told him I was worried because it was already over 80 outside. I worry about the temp inside because of my plants and my pet gecko, its species shouldn't really be subject to high heat or else they could die of heat stroke/stress. I told him my concerns, and he brushed me off saying it would be fine and he will turn it back on soon. I said okay and then I had to leave for work
I work full time in a manufacturing environment, and I also work an additional 10-15 hours per week for a contract job when I get home. I hurt my back at my manufacturing job, and the last few weeks have been pretty rough. He on the other hand, makes what I make with his full time work from home job.
Today when I got home I kicked off my shoes, in a lot of pain and haven't eaten all day, and kissed him hello. We chated for a minute about his new desk decoration, and I noticed it was really warm. He was commenting that its been really hot in his office all day, when I noticed the AC was still off. I was surprised, and rushed to see the temp in my geckos enclosure- it was nearly 87º. When I pointed it out, worried and upset- my husband just got angry. He started saying well maybe of I helped out more… that he does the majority of everything… I was pissed. I started working to cool off the habitat, and luckily my gecko was alive.
It's true, he does do more housework than me, mainly because he works from home. I never asked him to do my laundry/dishes and any time he's done it I've said thank you, and you dont need to do that and he says he just wanted to do it. I've also been doing less chores because of my back, and my second job- but it's not like I live in filth! I ultimately could probably do more- but I'm just so angry right now because all of that is completely unrelated to the fact that he fucked up and then didn't even say sorry and just started tearing me down. Now he's left for the evening, saying that I came in guns blazing and accusing. He took my tone of surprise and worry for blame. Like, I dont care that you forgot (his memory is shit), I just care that my pet is alive and that you apologize instead of taking it out on me and blaming me.
TLDR; I was worried about my pet when my husband turned the AC off. He works from home and forgot about it. when I got home and noticed he got mad at me thinking I was mad at him. Pet is fine, but now we're fighting.